Be Original or Die in Mediocrity

Be Original or Die in Mediocrity

 

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For the longest time I thought there was always a right way to do things.

A right way to build success, to build a business, to well….be me.

 

And most importantly – I thought that someone else had that answer.

 

Someone that had gone before me that knew so much more than me, had the experience, had been there done that, and could teach me step by step the way to get to where they are.

 

I guess it was a lot to do with the schooling system – you are always learning to do things like everyone else. Study like everyone else. Learn like everyone else. Arrive at the same conclusions as everyone else.

 

Originality, innovative thinking, stepping outside the norm is not encouraged. Veering from the status quo is annoying. The child who refuses to sit still and learn like the others is quickly ridiculed and shunned for being disruptive. The child who thinks of different ways of getting the same task done is told that that is “not right” and essentially shut down for being skilled enough to come up with a better and more efficient way of doing something.

 

I was always a nerd. I loved to study, I loved to work hard, and I loved to join the dots and make everyone around me happy. Very quickly though, as learning got tougher I began to be shunned and put back in my place.

 

My report cards always read: Ana has no trouble keeping up with the work load, however she disrupts other students who are not a quick as she will finish her work and begin talking.

 

Correct – I was being blamed for the work load not being challenging enough. There was no concern that I could possibly be pushed even further, that I could be special, that I should be encouraged to expand and grow and see where my natural talents could take me.

 

No. Unfortunately anything outside the norm in the school system is shunned, regardless if you are falling behind or leaping ahead.

 

So I was discouraged from leaping, encouraged to slow myself down to bring myself down to others levels, to not over achieve as it made OTHERS feel uncomfortable.

 

Do you know what that’s like? I think you might.

 

And you know what? In the end, I don’t mind one bit that they held me back to make themselves more comfortable.

 

Because perhaps, had I been more challenged, had I had more than a small handful of teachers  over the years who took the time to give me extra work and challenges so that I could grow rather than wilt, well perhaps then…. perhaps I would have continued along improving their candles for a while longer –

 

Rather than inventing the light bulb.

 

Perhaps if they had supported me more, encouraged me to leap within the safe confines of their rules and regulations, I would have created some damn awesome candles – as long as they didn’t push the envelope too far.

 

But instead, I got sick of it. I got sick of being held back. First by school, then by Uni, then by real life adult work.

 

I got sick of everyone’s rules, Everyone’s demands on what you can and can’t do, on how you should and should not be, how success does or does not look.

 

I got  so FUCKING OVER IT that I smashed the damn candles to the ground and STARTED ALL OVER AGAIN.

 

I walked away from it all. Let the ashes fall where they may. And left the lemmings to their constant improvement of candles. I think Soy is what’s hot right now….

 

Instead – I stepped into being me. 100%. No holding back. No restrictions on how I show up, what I say, how I act and what impact I make on the world.

 

I invented the fucking light bulb.

 

MY light bulb.

 

That thing that I had always been told I shouldn’t do – that I shouldn’t tread on anyone’s toes, not upset others, not cause others to feel inferior by me doing more.

 

That my whole frickin life should basically be about trying to please others. Screw myself. Screw what I ever wanted or what difference I could make if I just stopped trying to please everyone else.

 

And so I said FUCK THAT.

 

I was never cut out to be a lemming with a candle.

 

And neither are you babe.

You are an Alpha fucking Superstar. 

 

You have always stood out, couldn’t blend in even when you tried. Even when you managed to put on the clothes, dress the way they told you, as soon as you opened your mouth it was all over.

 

You couldn’t hold your originality back. It was clear that you are POWERFUL.

 

You refuse to take anyone else’s shit.

 

And you refuse to conform.

 

And you rebel against conformity like your life depends on it.

 

Only because it fucking does!

 

Because you will die – and you sure as hell will not die in mediocrity.

 

Die hoping that everyone liked you.

 

That you didn’t rattle too many feathers, that you just leave a pretty candle behind rather than piss people off with your light bulb.

 

You will NOT die in Mediocrity.

 

So stop playing so small. Stop letting their well trained words into your ears.

 

“You’re not doing this right. You shouldn’t do that. This isn’t the way it’s done.”

 

“That won’t work. You can’t do that.”

 

“Please oh please oh PLEASE don’t do that or you will make XYZ look bad.”

 

You know – cause they don’t actually have the balls to do it?

 

And god forbid you should upset a lemming right?

 

Cause then they might just what…. go have a bitch about you with the other lemmings to make themselves feel better and then carry on with their mediocrity?

 

You know what babe? THAT IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM.

 

You never have been, and you NEVER WILL BE responsible for anyone else’s feelings that arise from you stepping up and shining like the superstar you are.

 

 

Haters gonna hate.

 

And lemmings gonna lemming.

 

And you my dear, my dear dear superstar – well you are gonna light the world on fire!

 

 

Ana sign off

 

 

 

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